Journey Back to Soul - Week 5

Alot of us have learned to repress our negative emotions. Negative emotions are often demonized but what I have found, is that emotions are messengers. And even thought sometimes it can get ugly, their messages are extremely important to our well-being. The stronger the emotion, the more important the message. But lets start with something kinda easy to give you an example of how this process works and help you start undemonizing these messengers. 

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I am going to tell you some things I hate. 

1. I hate bullies. 

2. I hate sharks

3. I hate raw tomatoes

 

Why do I hate these things

1. I think they're cruel and ignorant. Even when I was little, if there was a fight at school or someone was picking on someone else, I had to jump in the middle of it without hesitation because i didn't want people to be mean to each other. 

2. They just look scary

3. I think they taste gross 

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Because I know I hate this, what does that help me realize I love? or want? or value?

1. I love when people are respectful and kind to each other. I really value the quality of respect.

2. I love the ocean but I definitely want to make sure to avoid sharks.

3. I want food I love eating! 

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I know it's kind of silly and mild but can you see how honoring your negative emotions as messengers actually helps you make better decisions and take better care of yourself. 

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Step 1 - 

I want you to think of something or someone that has been really irritating you or frustrating you lately. And then I want you to do something I call permission granted. You are going to write everything that you hate or irritates you about this situation or person or thing. No one is going to see this, you can tear it up in little pieces and throw it away right after, but be a safe space for yourself to acknowledge the negative emotions that are coming up and then I'll help you find your personal truth and wisdom hiding inside it. So set a timer for 10 minutes and with complete self-acceptance and complete honesty, write down everything that's bugging you, hurting you, frustrating you and why. If you write something that doesn't feel quite accurate, just write it again more accurately. Say it wrong as many times as you need to until it resonates fully. We hardly express our negative emotions perfectly the first time was say them so don't worry about saying it wrong a couple times first as it helps you get closer and closer to your true feelings and really resonates with you and how you honestly feel. Ok ready set go! 

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Step 2 - 

You might have noticed that as you got really honest with yourself, you started to feel a release of pressure or even breathed a sigh of relief after. That's really good! That's a sign of your nervous system regulating itself back into a relaxed state and out of fight or flight mode. If you haven't felt that yet, that's ok, you are about to. I want you to think about everything you just wrote, and ask yourself/soul because I acknowledged how much I don't like this, what does that mean I value and love? Take a few minutes to write down those thoughts. 

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Step 3 - 

Often times negative emotions will kick on when you are trying to do everything for everyone else and you forget to take care of yourself, and since the human body has daily needs and communicates with us that something is wrong by making us not feel good or sending us a negative emotion, if we repress that negative emotion for too long, our body will eventually just shut down or we will end up biting someone's head off. 

Below is a chart I made of different virtues that I kept living out of balance and this is how I learned to regulate myself and my relationships in a much healthier way. Take a look and see if you are living any of these virtues out of balance. The goal is to be in the middle column as much as possible. That's it for this week. Can't wait to talk to you on Saturday!

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